Comments on: The power of “no means no” http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/ Notes from a kinky nomad Wed, 07 Oct 2009 10:04:42 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: kinkinexile http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-168 kinkinexile Mon, 19 Nov 2007 08:28:31 +0000 http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-168 Jha, I hope you enjoy life in Canada. You're right, the "yes" becomes much more meaningful when there is thought and intent behind it, not just bowing to social pressure. And of course no apology necessary...developing countries stay developing for a long time and attitudes change slowly. No one person is responsible for it, unfortunately it is also unclear to me as to how to solve it. Jha, I hope you enjoy life in Canada.

You’re right, the “yes” becomes much more meaningful when there is thought and intent behind it, not just bowing to social pressure. And of course no apology necessary…developing countries stay developing for a long time and attitudes change slowly. No one person is responsible for it, unfortunately it is also unclear to me as to how to solve it.

]]> By: Jha http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-167 Jha Mon, 19 Nov 2007 04:39:18 +0000 http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-167 The fact that in SEA I feel disrespected as a woman was one of the main reasons I moved to Canada, too. (I'm from Malaysia.) It is a difficult thing to live in fear, to feel that one's sexuality is restrained because there're a lot of people surrounding who would only be too happy to take advantage of the fact that a woman is sexual. I also only realized recently that the empowerment to say "no" means that the times I say "yes" are so much more meaningful. Sexual respect is an idea in its infancy there in SEA, and I know I shouldn't, but I feel the need to apologize to you for our lack of respect towards your sexual freedom. The fact that in SEA I feel disrespected as a woman was one of the main reasons I moved to Canada, too. (I’m from Malaysia.)

It is a difficult thing to live in fear, to feel that one’s sexuality is restrained because there’re a lot of people surrounding who would only be too happy to take advantage of the fact that a woman is sexual. I also only realized recently that the empowerment to say “no” means that the times I say “yes” are so much more meaningful.

Sexual respect is an idea in its infancy there in SEA, and I know I shouldn’t, but I feel the need to apologize to you for our lack of respect towards your sexual freedom.

]]> By: Bainiac Chick http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-166 Bainiac Chick Mon, 19 Nov 2007 03:28:00 +0000 http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-166 Wonderfully said. A pleasure to read. Wonderfully said. A pleasure to read.

]]> By: maymay http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-163 maymay Thu, 15 Nov 2007 21:24:14 +0000 http://kinkinexile.wordpress.com/2007/11/15/the-power-of-%e2%80%9cno-means-no%e2%80%9d/#comment-163 This is a part of what I find so intuitively obvious that it is actually hard to explain, because along with this idea is the generalized notion that one thing can not be defined without bringing its opposite into existence. And therein lies the necessity of diversity, and the evil inherent in absolute uniformity. This is a part of what I find so intuitively obvious that it is actually hard to explain, because along with this idea is the generalized notion that one thing can not be defined without bringing its opposite into existence.

And therein lies the necessity of diversity, and the evil inherent in absolute uniformity.

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