Kink in exile

Notes from a kinky nomad

Privacy and the brave new world

I just finished reading yet another paranoid article about blogging and lack of privacy. This is something I have a hard time speaking to because I suspect a lot of other people are a lot less “out” than I am. I don’t think that’s wrong, but I also don’t understand it.

I am both very open about my sexuality and my beliefs, and very protective of my privacy and personal space. I was born into Netgen; as Design Debutante puts it “We share things that are intensely private and never reveal our real names.” I don’t understand why I see article after frightened article about how my boss will read my blog. I know my boss will read my blog, I gave him the url.

No, I will not give you my real name, but I know a lot of my readers personally so I expect my real name gets associated with this blog. I do not talk about kinky sex with my co-workers, but I take this to be a basic principle of professionalism. Do you ask about your co-worker’s sex lives? What about your mother’s? I worked in pornography for 2 years, and it was still strictly business.

I guess what it comes down to is that I don’t really have anything to hide. I have made life choices that allow that because I am both unwilling to give up my desires and dubious of my ability to hide them from the world. And furthermore, the worst violations of privacy I have suffered happened not through the accidental discovery of my blog, but through the old fashioned method of malicious, offline gossip.


P.S. You may have noticed that today is not Friday, and this week’s posts are early. This is because I am running around like a chicken with its head cut off trying to teach Quark basics in a language I can barely communicate in, and get to a conference for my real job, but I didn’t want to leave you without posts. Stay tuned and I promise your normal posting schedule will resume shortly.

Written by kinkinexile

June 28, 2007 at 7:58 am

Posted in blogging, privacy, writing

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  1. Hell yeah. Being out gives you power. Not a lot of people are out. Not a lot of people understand power, for that matter. Even fewer people think they’ll ever really have it. What a shame.


    June 29, 2007 at 1:00 pm

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