I used to have a custom made button that said “don’t touch without asking, if I say no stop asking.” I am a very friendly kind of girl, but one thing I can not deal with is people who will touch without permission. I don’t just mean blatantly sexual touch either; I don’t want you to slap my back any more than I want you to slap my ass unless I said you could.
Why do people think it’s ok to touch without permission? And why does this happen a lot more in mainstream interactions than kink or other alt sex circles? Do other people find this to be the case as well? I mean there are plenty of people in alt sex circles who will push boundaries, but in my expirience even they understand that consent is a community norm. The common scenario in my expirience with mainstream circles is that someone will touch me in a way I find inappropriate, I will ask them to stop and they will at best look a little confused but stop, but more often than not say something to the effect of “oh I don’t mean it that way” and continue the behavior.
How does being in the mainstream give you license do things like this? And does this mean that I can get drunk, slap my vanilla friends on the ass, assure them that I don’t mean anything by it and that will be acceptable?