Kink in exile

Notes from a kinky nomad

Event survival guide

[I should be packing for a sci-fi con that I am going to this weekend and the accompanying play events, but instead I am scrambling to finish off a blog post…]

So you’re looking forward for a weekend long event, the scenes you’ll have, the eye candy you’ll see, and the sleep dep you’ll experience…

Arrive well rested:
This is something I have yet to accomplish usually arriving after a hectic day at the office when I try to cram 8 hours of work into a half day and still catch a plane or worse yet after a day spent at the airport encountering one travel delay after another. Still you should make an effort to arrive as well rested and well organized as possible. Pack in advance, throw a power bar into your bag to avoid those last minute dashes to bus terminal convenience stores with all your gear in tow, and make sure your phone, ipod, and any other electronics are fully charged.

Stay hydrated:
I carry a water bottle with me and make sure to keep it full. Scenes are physically draining, and all that coffee you’re probably pouring into your body isn’t helping any. Your body needs as much help recovering as it can get and staying hydrated will go a long way.

Remember to eat:
In the science fiction community we have something called the 5-2-1 rule, meaning five hours of sleep, two meals, and one shower per 24 hour period when attending conventions. I modify this slightly for kink events mostly to include more showers (a nice caffeine free way to reenergize between panels and play) and snacks after every scene. You might find that you have been snacking all day and aren’t very hungry come dinner time, however, I would still suggest a sit-down dinner. I usually opt for something light if I’m planning to play soon after, but this is a wonderful opportunity to reconnect with old friends, relax from a busy day of classes and shopping, and maybe even negotiate a scene.

Quality over quantity:
My biggest problem at these events is that I want to play with everybody: my partner, the friend I only see once a year at the fetish flea, that guy whom I saw do a beautiful scene last night and chatted with afterward…This can get really overwhelming. The good news is that this is probably not your last kink event, and there will be other opportunities. You will find the balance that works for you as well as how many scenes you can do spaced how far apart. Don’t be afraid to reschedule if you’re not feeling up for a scene either. If you’re going into a scene because you said you would not because you want to you won’t have a good time; better to try again when you’re more available physically and emotionally.

Consider what you pack:
If that cute pink latex mini-skirt hasn’t looked quite right since you stopped walking to work every day don’t pack it. It’s a good idea to try on everything you pack before you go. Not only will this save you space and prevent you from realizing 5 minutes before your hot date that every pair of stockings you brought has a run in it, it will also ensure that when you’re getting dressed every option in your suitcase will be flattering and well thought out, which is great for your self esteem.

Pens are useful:
So are personal cards with your name, and email address on them. If you feel comfortable doing so you can also include your phone number. You will probably meet a lot of cool people, and it will be a lot easier to stay in touch with them if you don’t have to look all over god’s green earth for a way to give them your phone number. I once made goodie bags for a friend’s play party (yes, I am kinky Martha Stewart. Why do you ask?) that included tiny little address books to replace all those scraps of paper people usually walk away with.

The bottom line:
Relax, enjoy, and don’t try to do everything because it’s impossible.

Written by kinkinexile

January 18, 2008 at 6:27 pm

Posted in advice, blogging, community

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  1. Hope you have fun!!! Great idea with the personal cards by the way.


    January 19, 2008 at 10:25 pm

  2. 🙂 Being Googleable so beats business cards. On the other hand, business cards are slick. On the other hand, being Googleable is dorky. On the other hand….

    Good advice, all ’round.


    January 23, 2008 at 7:05 am

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