Kink in exile

Notes from a kinky nomad

It’s not about the money.

A while ago I made an off-hand comment to a friend: “why do the gays have nicer things than we do?” “Double income, no kids,” he replied without a pause. It’s easy to think that more disposable income converts to a higher quality of life. But it’s not about the money. It’s about the lifestyle. It’s about being part of a community that has stood up in the face of opposition, repression, and abuse to say that our desire is more important than our acceptability. It’s about valuing desires, legitimizing desires, and prioritizing desires. It is about hedonism being an intrinsic part of our every relationship, and about scandal as price of admission. Privilege is a belief system not a bank balance.

Isn’t it time you claimed your desires?

Written by kinkinexile

May 5, 2008 at 5:11 am

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  1. But it is about the money. Buying nice things in the face of opposition and repression is, itself, resistance of that repression.


    May 6, 2008 at 11:53 am

  2. I think the money does play a large role. Sure, it’s not *just* about the money, but more disposable income usually translates into less stress. You want that expensive toy? Just buy it. You want to go out to a show? Just buy it. You still need to be alive enough to enjoy spending money, but there’s a security that comes from it.


    May 6, 2008 at 3:10 pm

  3. I’m deep in debt. It is all about the money.


    May 7, 2008 at 2:48 am

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