The love conquers all narrative
I recently watched Funny Face with someone I just started seeing. I hadn’t seen this movie in years, possibly not since early in my undergraduate career so re-watching it with an eye toward understanding cultural narratives was, well, eye opening.
Here is how true love works according to this classic of American cinema:
1) violently invade the life of a woman
2) coerce her into doing your bidding
3) insult her intelligence and demonstrate a blatant disinterest in things she holds dear
4) insult and attempt to chase off other males she is interested in
5) wait until she reaches a moment of realization in which she discovers
a) that she loves you
b) that other men are predators and you were trying to protect her all along
Compare this to other classics, modern cinema, or even children’s movies (think Beauty and the Beast as domestic violence case study). Is it any wonder we are confused about what roles to play in relationships or why there is such a fine line between romance and stalking?