I don’t remember who gave me this advice, but I know I’ve passed it on over countless cups of coffee, impossibly girly umbrella drinks, and long international phone calls: establish the lines of communication early.
Before you have relationship problems, while things are going really well and everyone’s happy — that’s the best time to lay the groundwork for good communication. Communicate about things that are working, communicate your intentions, talk about the weather for all I care, but dear god talk! Why? Because when things break down, and you’re hurt, upset, and insecure in the relationship the worst possible scenario is that you don’t know how to express it and your partner doesn’t know how to hear it.